A few years ago we were filming in various locations around the UK.
Whilst this might sound like the glamorous TV lifestyle, in reality, it’s just many hours of car journeys.
Now I’m not sure about you, but because I’m normally the driver, I don’t tend to be the best passenger. However on this particular day I was totally relaxed.
Chris our cameraman, who was driving, is very good at it. In fact, in a previous life he was a police advanced driver. So the conversation inevitably arose about driving techniques. He told me they spent many hours being trained not just to look at car in front but much further ahead. ‘That way, if there is a problem you will get more time to apply brakes and keep in control’.
Strangely, this conversation came back to me last week during a communication coaching session.
My client Jane and I were talking about how easy it is to get wrapped up in the immediacy of a situation and stop looking at the big picture.
It occurred to me that many of us spend our lives only looking at the immediate future and not the long term.
For example people getting frustrated and angry over a minor issue such as a broken coffee machine that in reality is not at all important.
I often use the analogy of the rechargeable battery.
If you see your energy as a power source and all day long things take some of that energy away.
Concentrating on that new project, preparing board papers, handling difficult issues all expends your energy.
For most of us, its part of our normal day.
But what about the energy we expend that is wasted?
Worrying about what people may think!
Stressing in traffic!
Even shouting at the TV! (I’m guilty of this one!)
We do it without realising how it affects us and how it can have a profound effect on our ability to cope.
Some people allow their ‘battery’ level to get so low they struggle to re-charge it at all which many people in the business world would call ‘burn-out’.
So, what’s the solution?
Rather than let your subconscious mind handle it bring it into you conscious and consider it in real time.
Create a habit of always seeing the big picture.
Make the effort to put things into context and always ask yourself ‘is this really a problem or am I just making it into one’?
If you are not already doing it I promise that after a few weeks this becomes a habit you wish you adopted sooner.
So what are you waiting for?
STOP LOOKING AT THE CAR IN FRONT!!